Some days, the best I can do is .... yup, just wing it. Especially when anxiety has hold of my executive functioning (the process in our brains that allows us to plan or make choices or decisions) all I can do is choose the simplest thing, or the thing most directly in front of me. Sometimes the choice is no choice. It's "I can't make a choice." And in that case, I ask for help. And I'm not talking about big choices like, buying a car, or choosing a new refrigerator (and some would say that even those are not big choices). I'm talking about what to have for lunch. What clothes to put on. Where shall I sit? I am talking about the choices that, in tiny increments make up our everyday lives. This is one of the pieces of chronic anxiety that isn't often talked about--how making a small choice can turn into a tear-filled disaster moment. What do to? Stop all decision making processes, sit down, drink some water and then if at all possible pick one thing and start with it. If it's not right, pick something else, with permission to change my mind at any time. Choice paralysis is incredibly frustrating. But I've started putting the Just Wing It approach into play wherever possible. If I get it wrong, I start again. You can, too. It's a self-love thing. Love yourself first, then love others.
Love, Cheri
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